Chances are, you’ve heard someone tell you to let it go. There are so many people and articles saying this, but not enough explaining what to exactly let go of. Immerse yourself into your own depths and reflect on some of the lingering feelings and experiences that can hold us back.


There are no lower vibrations than guilt and shame. In fact, they are the lowest frequencies we can vibrate to. It causes people to act on these feelings in a very damaging cycle. Think about the things you feel guilty or shameful about and be patient with yourself. Mistakes happen and every single human being has made them before. Guilt does nothing but hold you back, so every time you begin to feel it, focus on an empowering symbol of your choosing and reflect on its meaning. By focusing on your symbol, you’ll replace the feeling of guilt with one of empowerment and trust in something bigger.

The quickest way to disappointment is through expectations. Whether on yourself or others, unrealistic expectations often lead to unnecessary let downs. By releasing them, you are setting yourself up to always be pleasantly surprised. It can be difficult to release expectations, especially if you are excited about something. Instead, focus on things you can control, like your reactions. Settle into a calm state, or a happy one, and really tune in to it. Notice the sensations, and channel that when you begin to let your mind wander to creating expectations.

Other People’s Mistakes
You can’t control other people, as much as you may sometimes want to. If someone messes up and it causes you strife, you must learn to let it go. Of course, we’re not all zen masters. This one can be tricky. However, this is one of the most freeing processes because it instills a level of faith. Trust the process — that means every bump, mistake, and accident are divinely placed. See this as an addition to a perfect puzzle.

Your Past
Every single person in creation has something they are not pleased with in their past. Repeat that in your head, it surely is comforting that we’re all in this together. It is what connects us all on such a deep and profound level. As you grow, you make mistakes, and that is why life is worth living. It is through mistakes that you are able to reach new heights. It may sound cliché, but it is so for a reason. You are here, now, perfectly imperfect and everything you have experienced is feeding your soul. Breathe, and let go.

Fear and Doubt
One of the wisest riddles goes like this: Imagine a duck in a glass bottle. The neck of the bottle is too small to allow the duck through. The bottle is perfectly formed and has no trick bottoms or other openings. How do you get the duck out of the bottle without damaging either the duck or the bottle?

The answer is simple — there is no duck, and no bottle, so just imagine the duck out of the bottle! We often fear and worry about problems that aren’t even there. Your imagination can get carried away, so let it carry you home.  Learn the difference between healthy discernment and unnecessary fear, worry, and doubt. And when it gets tough, imagine a duck in a bottle!


We all are in this life together. Let go of the pressure that you can so easily put on yourself. Check your perspective and see that this is all perfect. Life is about learning, growing, experiencing good and bad, and loving through it all. Be patient with yourself — it’s all good.

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Ani Ferlise
Written by Ani Ferlise
A wild woman living amongst the trees in Oregon, I can be found listening to classic rock, talking with my cat Patrick Swayze, and playing with crystals and herbs. I am the Creative Copywriter, creating content filled with how to enjoy the little things and the magic of every day life. I live my life by Bob Dylan’s quote: “All I can do is be me, whoever that is.”